Van Metaxas, LMFT
Individuals · Couples · Parents/Families · Adolescents · Young Adults · Adults
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
License No: MFC 32323
About My Practice
You may be seeking psychotherapy because you and your partner are stuck in a cycle of hurt and blame or avoidance that threatens your relationship. Couples often get stuck in these destructive loops, blaming each other for the uncomfortable feelings that their relationship evokes. Yet these unwanted feelings can be doorways into your own development, allowing mutual empathy to flourish and you and your partner to see each other in increasingly vulnerable and human ways. An active and engaged couples therapist can help you discover new ways of approaching old issues that you never imagined possible.
In therapy, we work together to help you experience a profound truth: You and your partner are the two people in the world best positioned to help each other heal problems you’ve suffered with your whole lives. It is tremendously empowering to know that you are responsible for each other in this deep and abiding way. When seen in this way, your relationship can blossom and be transformed from a source of pain into a powerful agent for mutual healing and growth.
Like the butterfly’s chrysalis, psychotherapy can be a safe and protected environment in which you can develop aspects of your self and personality before you are ready to risk emerging into the world. Working together, we can create a safe, supportive, and collaborative relationship from which you can begin, or continue, your lifelong journey of self-discovery — and self-creation.
Please call my office or visit my website to learn more about how we can begin working together.
- Helping couples rekindle intimacy by resolving old fears and bitterness, rebuilding trust, and risking greater vulnerability and open-heartedness.
- Helping couples navigate difficult life transitions such as moving in together, deciding to marry or start a family, dealing with infertility, adjusting to life with newborns, healing from affairs, and reviving the sensual and the erotic.
- Empowering adults in their 30s, 40s and 50s to understand and transform the roots of loneliness, anxiety, anger and shame; resolve self-limiting beliefs that lead to depression, despair, and a sense of meaninglessness in life; and engage life, work, and relationships more fully.
- M.A. from California Institute of Integral Studies at San Francisco, 1992
- A.B. from Princeton University, 1984.
Experience / Training:
I have been a practicing psychotherapist since 1990 and in private practice since 1995. For ten years, I was the Director of Counseling at an independent high school in San Francisco. I have supervised therapists-in-training for eight years, most recently in the graduate clinical program at the California Institute of Integral Studies.
Professional Affiliations / Activities
- Northern California Association for Psychoanalytic Psychology
- The Psychotherapy Institute, Berkeley
- California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists